Why focus on process and not transformation?
Transformation is a result of processes. No one just turn out well without going through certain journeys.
If a civilian enroll in a military school and go through the processes, he or she will be transformed into a trained military personel
On processes, I will mention just 2, get the rest in the book
People
Mess
You become the better version of you through others. People such as parents, teachers, . Friends. Enemies. Etc. They all will play a role in making of the better you. Learn to recognise their roles and leverage on it instead of getting bitter about certain things
Mess: The pains you have been true are actually instruments of making you depending on how you handled it.
If you ha d it over to Jesus, He will make a message out of your Mess and turn your life around for good
As a believer when yiu feel stucked, frst go back to God. Know fully well that, feelings are fickle they are not always real.
Be free to be vulnerable with God about your feelings and be humble enough to get feedbacks from God...He will give you an honest diagnosis of the situation and the reason for your feelings including the way out.
He may lead you to someone, books, programs and personal instructions, that will resolve the issue.
God has the answer first
How not to compare yourself Chaoter 6 with another's Chapter 10 is by being convinced that we are all in different phases and spaces per time. The Bible says he will compare himself with another is not wise.
Being age mate does not mean you will be season mate. Your journeys are different so will be your processes. Embrace your season per time